Women are as important as men for the survival of human race. A woman is a great blessing of God in form of a sister, a daughter and a wife. The most significant role of a woman is ‘the mother’. A mother not only provides a baby with his basic physiological needs but also establish a strong impact on his psychology. A child learns those things from his mother which he cannot learn from the top university of the world….
All complex issues e.g. right, wrong, monotheism, polytheism and determinism as well as practical matters e.g. patience, simplicity, modesty are taught by the mother. If this primary institute is not following the right path, then entire scheme of this life becomes wrong.
Practical examples of this problem can be seen in form of individual characters like Hitler, Mussolini and Gengez Khan, as well as collective systems like the nations of Lut, A’ad and Thamud. A moral issue may be developed in a woman’s personality from various aspects but we want to draw their attention to only one aspect of their personality i.e. extremism in exhibiting themselves.
All of us know that the desire of exhibitionism is more in women as compared to men. If this desire remains within its limits, it increases the beauty of this world, but if it crosses all the limits, it results in a disorder. In our society, women exhibit themselves in various forms but the most prominent form is their dresses and jewellery.
Objective of dressing is not only hiding the genitals but also to increase the beauty of one’s personality provided that a person should not spend too much on it. If we look at the attitude of our women, we find that their objective is often different. Most of our women wear their dress to compete with other women. When they wear a garment, they consider it useless for wearing again on another occasion. If a woman does so, she has to face a lot of criticism from her friends. The taste and status of a woman is determined by the cost of her dress.
On the other side, the use of jewellery is a big issue for the women. The gold, which is an extremely useless metal, is expensive due to their demand. Why wearing steel jewellery is considered shameful whereas wearing gold is considered respectful? Both of them are simply metals. Value of gold is closely related to the old psychology of women. This jewellery is kept in cabinets. If our women are asked to utilize this jewellery in some useful activity, they never accept this advice.
|Your servants are your brothers, and Allah has put them under your command. So the one under whose hand Allah has put his brother, should feed him of what he eats, and give him dresses of what he wears, and should not ask him to do a thing beyond his capacity. And if at all he asks him to do a hard task, he should help him therein.
Prophet Muhammad (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم) reported by Bukhari
Due to this exhibitionism, women wear expensive clothes and jewellery in different ceremonies. In order to establish the image of their distinctive personality, they spend thousands.
This attitude results in a demand for money. Their husbands and fathers are forced to earn income in an unfair manner by corruption and other malpractices. Instead of living a simple life, an artificial lifestyle is adopted. A wicked personality is developed instead of an innocent one. Jealousy takes the place of sympathy. Consequently, this great university for the humanity becomes a school of teaching negativity and corruption.
It is essential now that our women should choose one of these two alternatives: Whether they want to engage their next generations in the endless struggle of this false glamour or they want to teach them a simple and respectful life. A simple lifestyle is the path on which, a person does not need artificial means to develop her personality.
(Author: Professor Muhammad Aqeel, Translation: Mubashir Nazir, Review: Muhammed Umar Khan)
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